It Takes Time

Purgatory does not have a positive tone.  Unfortunately, that is what many of my clients live in daily when going through a child custody dispute or a divorce.  When litigation is pending, every step that you take is under scrutiny.  You think twice about having a glass of wine with dinner and then driving home.  A raise that seemed promising Six (6) months ago now makes you wonder if your child support will increase or decrease.  Job opportunities are lost because of the uncertainty of where you will be living when the divorce is through.  As difficult as the transition time is, it is important to remember that most divorces or child custody disputes do not last forever.  Try to compartmentalize the litigation as much as you can so that it does not consume your life.  If you are having difficulty dealing with the stress litigation causes, then seek counseling through a local professional or through a local church.  Find 20 minutes a day to take a walk outside and clear your mind.  Remember, that it takes time to resolve all issues associated with a divorce and there is no quick fix.  Plenty of reading materials are available to help guide you through divorce and/or child custody.  If meeting with your attorney stresses you out, I suggest you keep a notepad in your bedside table or desk drawer and jot down questions you need your attorney to answer so that you maximize the time you spend (and are paying for) on the phone with your attorney or meeting with your attorney.